The Purpose

40 Days of Devotion: Honoring Marriage for the Good of All
“The best way to overcome false desires is to engender true ones.” C.S. Lewis

Please join us for forty days of prayer and fasting on behalf of marriage. Our devotional focus– how honoring marriage honors God and our fellow humanity.
Our practical aim–
to wake up the citizens of California to go to the polls on Nov. 4th and vote yes on Proposition 8.
Our hope–
to overturn the CA Supreme Court decision to legalize ‘gay’ marriage.

In truth, gay marriage is a misnomer. The term marriage belongs only to one man pledged in fidelity and permanence to one woman. Any other definition dishonors and dilutes marriage, misrepresents the Creator who designed marriage, and does untold damage to humanity. All three will be prayerfully explored on a daily devotional blog I will be writing to guide the 40-day prayer/fast. (See

The fast means giving up one thing of value over the course of the 40 days in order to commit to 30 minutes of prayer each day on behalf of marriage and the citizens of California. Though many will pray alone, we hope that some will gather in groups of two or three to do so. The blog entry each day may help inform the prayer for that day.
Our time will begin Friday, September 26th, and end Election Day, Nov. 4th.

Why Marriage?
Marriage is the most powerful and civilizing institution in the world. At its best, marriage possesses a unique authority to teach spouses to love, to channel their sexuality constructively, and then to love the fruit of that creativity (children) well. Marriage impacts everyone. For that impact to be as beneficial as possible, we can agree with the writer of Hebrews on behalf of all people when (s)he says: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure.” (Heb. 13:4)

Many with same-sex attraction do not submit their desires as a problem to be solved but rather as a civil right to be asserted. That has manifested itself today in gays claiming marriage as their own. We must not concede this to them. Instead, we honor marriage and we honor gays by refusing to change the boundaries of marriage. Amid the many moral decisions all citizens face, we must remove the choice of ‘gay marriage’ by praying for Californian citizens to vote yes on Proposition 8.

Why Vote? Shouldn’t the Church only be concerned about Christians?
The writer of Hebrews says that marriage should be honored by all, not only those of the household of faith. Furthermore, Commandments 6 and 9 of the 10 Commandments set out the divine command that esteems marriage above all other erotic relationships.

God created all men and women as bearers of His image (Gen. 1: 26-28; 2: 18-25). In turn, all of humanity walks out that original call by seeking to love the opposite gender as best one can. Marriage provides the main and plain context in which we work out our lives on earth as bearers of the image of God, humanity as male and female.

Why Fast and Pray?
We face powerful mindsets (strongholds of thought) that have turned real justice on its ear. ‘Gay’ marriage in turn seems like a reasonable and fair request to many, even to believers. We must pray that God will grant all citizens a renewed vision of what marriage truly is, and how marriage honors God and our fellow humanity. The irrational and profoundly distorted precepts on which ‘gay’ marriage is based must be faced, not only with the good of reason, but with the awareness that our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against wickedness in high places. (2Cor 10: 4, 5; Eph. 6:12)

Our devotions and prayers will invite the Creator of marriage to renew our vision of what marriage truly is. We pray that He will go before us and awaken voters to that truth.

As citizens of an idolatrous culture, we must repent on behalf of the world and worldly church that is vulnerable to embracing the delusion of ‘gay’ marriage.
A wise man writes: “We were touched by abomination, and we flinched. But nothing happened. We were touched again. Again nothing happened. By the 500th time, we stopped flinching.”

Through prayerful repentance, we must pray for an awakening of conscience–to tremble once more at falsehood and to assert what is good and true in its place.

We do so individually, for the myriad ways that we have failed to love and honor the opposite gender aright, including our spouses.

We must do so corporately, as the church which has been slow to respond truthfully and mercifully to the broken image in humanity. We will pray for strength and sobriety for the bride who has tolerated the dishonoring of marriage in myriad ways. We will pray for the church in CA, renowned as a low hurdle gathering place for ‘seekers’, to arise as
‘the foundation and pillar of the truth’ (1T 3:15).

And we pray as citizens of our nation, full well knowing that what is occurring in CA will impact every state. And the globe. All eyes are on the USA to behold her response: how far she will concede to the demands of gay activists, and determine what she thinks marriage should be?

I tremble when I consider the stakes at hand. Will there be blood on our hands as a nation for reconfiguring the image of God? We must prayerfully consider our ways, and repent for our compromises and false notions of justice. The consequences speak for themselves.

“If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14)

“Just as there is a momentum to evil, so is there a momentum to repentance…”



  1. September 16, 2008 at 7:02 pm

    Dear Brother Andy!

    I am with you on this! I really appreciate your post, your thoroughness and your conviction in stand!

    I will be reading, praying and fasting some too.

    God bless you brother!

    Sincerely in HIS love and service,


  2. September 29, 2008 at 11:05 am

    Thank you for your leadership in this area. I am blessed to be joined with others in the fellowship of our Lord to fast and pray for the overturning of the CA marriage amendment.

  3. Mike Cooper said,

    September 29, 2008 at 11:12 am

    God has led me to join in the fasting and prayer for this election. Thank you for everything you’ve been posting!

    However, I find it confusing trying to figure out where the post of the day is… Some are on the “Home” page all together, some seem to be in a difficult-to-understand set of tabs at the top of the page.

    I will definitely stick with it but just wondering if there’s a clearer way of doing this.

    Thank God for His victory already won! For His Kingdom already come! Amen.

  4. Marc A. said,

    October 9, 2008 at 6:46 pm


    Outstanding posts. I commend you for the stand you are taking. We here in Dallas are praying for the upcoming elections. Thank God we are not having to deal with a Prop 8 on the ballot. A few years ago the sodomy laws in Texas were challenged. The Texas Supreme Court stood its ground to uphold the century plus old laws.

    On our blog, we have not yet confronted the issue in your face as you are, although my wife posted the day that Hallmark introduced the Gay Marriage cards. And accusations and threats ensued.

    May the Lord go with you bless you and keep you & Your wife as you stand up for the righteousness that is only found in Christ.



  5. theraws said,

    October 13, 2008 at 12:58 am

    awesome stuff man. This is stuff we could actually learn something from – in any culture, in any decade or century, the components of man and women will (thankfully) never change

  6. Matthew Forrester said,

    October 15, 2008 at 3:46 pm


    I appreciate you in so many different ways. Thank you for leading the way. I stand with you in this fight for truth!

    I am praying for you!

    I love DSM! 🙂

  7. John Kucera said,

    December 5, 2008 at 2:29 am

    Good day Andy,

    Thank you! I appreciate your sound, clear and respectful insight on this issue(s). And, pray we must for Godly counsel, wisdom and strategies as this proceeds through the CA Court to the US Supreme Court.
    Keep up the good fight, and the powerful work within and through DSM.
    It’s been a while since Seattle & Vancouver, BC. Currently live in Del Mar, CA.
    Hope all is well!!
    In His love.
    Ephesians 3:14-20

  8. Linda said,

    February 12, 2010 at 3:26 am

    We stood up for marriage between man & woman here in Hawaii, & rally to uphold it at the capital in Honolulu, Our voices & prayers heard loudly during election year. Mahalo “thank you” for this web site. I attended Santa Maria Vineyard Christian Fellowship for 15 yrs before moving back to Hawaii, 3 yrs ago. Married & praying. : ) Happy Valentine’s

  9. Robert Raw said,

    February 17, 2010 at 4:39 pm

    Hi Andy. This is mister Raw all the way from the deep South Africa. We are following you on the journey through Lent and others. What a ride eh? Nice to have spent a good time with Desert Stream in KC for those years. We are sad not to be returning – but can only hope you will make to our neck of the woods for a visit one day. You are notably missed.

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